Sali Says....

It is important to have a healthy work-life balance. A poor work-life balance can impact on all areas of your life, including relationships. Life Coaching can help you to improve the balance.

Sali Gray

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Life Coaching

I am often asked questions such as “what is the difference between coaching, mentoring and counselling” and there is no right or wrong answer. It is simply down to personal interpretation and here is mine:-

If a person believes they are faced with two options a) or b) the role of the coach is to encourage them to think about the possibility of an option c) and even an option d). These options may have already popped into the client’s mind, but have been dismissed. For example:-

Bianca White decides she needs some life coaching because she feels as if she is stuck in a rut. She is blessed with a comfortable life, but yearns to do something productive. She believes her options are a) to continue in her role as a housewife, even though her children have now left home (she feels she is not ‘needed’) or return to her previous (successful) career in sales, which she really didn’t enjoy. She has no other skills to offer and has been a stay-at-home mum for such a long time that her confidence level has dropped.  A coach would work with Bianca to explore her skill set (and she will have plenty) and encourage her to think of other options… (there will be some). A coach won’t tell Bianca what she should do, and certainly won’t use phrases such as ‘if I were you….’ A coach would, through a series of questions and discussions, encourage Bianca to come up with her own option c) and encourage her to pursue the best option through a series of mutually agreed action plans.

If a person needs help and support from someone, they may well need a mentor. The role of a mentor is to guide and encourage, through knowledge and experience. The mentor may well draw on personal experience to illustrate a point, and advise a route forward. For example:-

Jean Indigo has been asked to Chair her local Playgroup Committee, but she has never chaired a meeting in her life and she is terrified.  It’s not that she doesn’t want to take on a committee role, it’s simply that she doesn’t want to do it badly and she doesn’t know how to proceed.  Jean may well benefit from the services of a mentor, who can talk her through processes and etiquette, perhaps incorporating some ‘role play’ and some confidence building techniques. The mentor may recommend some pertinent reading material and other aids. The mentor will want Jean to succeed in her new role and will be instrumental in helping her to do this.

The role of a counsellor is quite different to the previous two roles. I believe the easiest way to differentiate between a coach and a counsellor, is that a coach would work with you to help you move forward from where you are today. A counsellor would work with you looking back to see what has happened in your life to bring you to where you are today. Within that journey, there may be things which need to be explored more deeply, in order to resolve them. Sometimes the past needs to be resolved, before people can move forward. I am not a trained counsellor, although I can recommend people who are. My role is always to help people to move forward in life.

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